Principles

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• Accept that everyone's choices (including yours) are not right or wrong, not good or bad, but have costs, benefits, risks, and possibilities, for themselves and for others, both short-term and long-term. See BeCoPoRiNNOO.

• Avoid toxic words like good, bad, right, wrong, fair, unfair, difficult, obligation, not good enough, should, and shouldn’t?

• Be hard on problems, but soft on people.

• Be 100% responsible.

• Be your own best friend. Give yourself admiration, compassion, and understanding.

• Bring yourself to now.

• Bring play, adventure, curiosity, and gratitude to each moment of my day.

• Choose courage to let go of defensiveness. Notice that there is nothing to defend.

• Choose courage to let go of expectations.

• Choose courage to live a life true to yourself, not what others expect (if there is a conflict).

• Choose courage (if necessary) to make requests.

• Choose courage (if necessary) to say "no".

• Choose courage (if necessary) to keep good boundaries with others so that you're taking care of yourself in your relationship with them.

• Choose courage (if necessary) to be more authentic and self-expressed.

• Choose courage (if necessary) to shut up when it would be best to shut up.

• Choose courage (if necessary) to prioritize enjoying the process needed to get whatever result(s) that your Next wants.

• Choose courage (if necessary) to accept that others may sometimes be upset with you.

• Do the difficult first.

• Everything that happens in your life is either a gift or a potential gift. Always look for that.

• Happiness is the ultimate purpose for every action you take.

• How are you currently fighting with reality (if you are suffering)?

• How can your Now and Next both be happy?

• How can your Now enjoy the process of moving towards what your Next wants?

• How can your SelfCare and the SelfCare of another fit together?

• Kids and cats as your best teachers. Look for ways to learn from them.

• Listen first, understand first; speak second, try to be understood second.

• Look for and discover the benefits behind any behavior that occurs as negative.

• Lower your standards (as a method for both Now and Next to be happy)

• Maintain buffers in your life, especially time and money buffers.

• Notice a soul-to-soul connection with each person in your life.

• Put on new glasses (create better interpretations).

• Remember that whatever others do, they are just trying to take care of themselves the best they know how.

• Remember that, after breathing, getting enough sleep and staying well rested is your #1 life priority (this follows from happiness being everyone's life purpose).

• Remember to maximize the source of your calories (at least 90%) from eating whole, unprocessed, plant foods (greens, beans, grains, seeds, fruits, berries, root vegetables, nuts, mushrooms, fungus, seaweeds, teas, coffees, spices, nutritional yeast, algae, and bee pollen)?

• Show respect to yourself, your friends, your colleagues, your reports, your boss, and your family members?

• Underpromise to yourself and to others.

• Use the Partnership Conversation in circumstances where there is an upset or potential upset with another.

• Watch the machinery of your mind with compassion and curiosity, knowing that you are not your machinery.

• You are the final judge for any choice you make or don't make.

• Your #1 job in life is to take care of yourself.